“I really wanted to write about women falling in love”

You might wonder if there is anything that Ingileif Friðriksdóttir can’t do. This powerhouse author, journalist, musician and LGBTQAI+ activist sat down with GayIceland to talk about her latest novel, Ljósbrot (Refraction). Published recently, it tells the story of the loves and lives of two young women.

Ingileif Friðriksdóttir, journalist, musician, LGBTQAI+ activist and author of brand new book Ljósbrot (Refraction).

“The novel tells two stories at once. On one hand we have the story of Kolbrún, a presidential candidate that has to ask herself difficult questions when she meets a young woman in the elections,” says Ingileif. “On the other hand we have Dóra, a high schooler that falls in love with her best friend. In both stories the women have to choose between the path they strive to be on or being true to themselves.

The book revolves around self reflection, how we navigate fitting in with the norm but also staying true to ourselves and how much of an inner struggle it can be to look in the mirror and accept the person we see there. I also really wanted to write about women falling in love with other women.”

Authenticity and lived experience are a crucial factor in accurately representing the queer lived experience in any art form. Speaking about her inspiration for the novel, Ingileif shares that some of her own emotional experiences around being a queer person made their way onto the pages.

“A lot of the feelings I describe in the book are feelings that I’ve felt myself. Having to choose between the truth or an image was a big thing for me for a long time.

A lot of the feelings I describe in the book are feelings that I’ve felt myself. Having to choose between the truth or an image was a big thing for me for a long time. But I couldn’t close the lid on who I was. That ruins people in the end.

The inspiration of the characters and their feelings comes from my own personal experiences and the experiences of women around me. We have all been through deep personal struggles and experiences when coming out and I think that’s something a lot of straight people don’t necessarily think about. The book is a novel of course so it’s not based on actual events even though I draw inspiration from different stories. But I wanted to write about these experiences and hope the book can open some people’s eyes and be a glimpse of hope for others.”

From speaking with the author it’s clear that, to her, representation of queer people in media matters and has been a key theme in her writing, previously publishing a children’s book focused on equality and diversity.

“I’m very passionate about telling diverse stories, both to children and adults. It’s actually a big thing for me personally to create the content I would’ve needed to see when I was younger and I hope it can help some people out there.

The book was recently released.

When I was a kid there were not many people here in Iceland that I could relate to that were very public with their queerness. But I hope that I can be that for kids and young people today and that I can leave something for future generations to see themselves reflected in.

I think it’s also very important to make space for more diversity because it can prevent prejudice and bullying. We don’t understand what we don’t see.”

Ingileif and her wife María Rut Kristinsdóttir.

Going back to her new novel Ljósbrot, although Ingileif first and foremost hopes that people will enjoy the story, and that queer people will see themselves reflected in it, her aim is also to reach people who don’t already understand the queer experience.

“I hope it can benefit both people who share similar experiences and also people who don’t necessarily understand them at all. I hope it will move some people and make them better understand the struggles queer people go through just to be able to be themselves and how difficult it has been for so many of us. But first and foremost I want them to enjoy the story and have fun reading it.”

Ingileif is also keen to stress the importance of reading in the Icelandic language and of young people spending time away from the digital world, and taking a step into the fictional one.

“I’m also passionate about the Icelandic language and really want to encourage young people especially to read more. It’s such a nice thing to forget time and place and get sucked into a fictional world. For me it’s a mindfulness practice in these times where we live where society moves so fast. So I think most people could benefit from sitting down and putting their phones away and getting lost in a book.”

I hope it will move some people and make them better understand the struggles queer people go through just to be able to be themselves and how difficult it has been for so many of us. But first and foremost I want them to enjoy the story and have fun reading it.

“The inspiration of the characters and their feelings comes from my own personal experiences and the experiences of women around me,” says Ingileif, about her new novel.

Considering how important queer representation and literature are to Ingileif, we couldn’t let Ingifleif of the hook without asking her what other queer writers inspire her the most.

“There are so many amazing queer writers out there that have captured our reality so beautifully. I have to mention The Price of Salt by Patricia Highsmith, The Miseducation of Cameron Post by Emily M. Danforth, Girls Can Kiss Now by Jill Gutowitz and Untamed by Glennon Doyle. We also have Icelandic writers such as Lilja Sigurðardóttir, Júlía Margrét Einarsdóttir and Jónína Leósdóttir that I’ve read everything by. Hannah Kent is also amazing!”

Ingileif’s debut novel is bold and ambitious, holding a mirror up to the queer experience and inviting those who don’t understand to slip into a fictional world that has been reality for so many. To find more about the book click HERE.

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Á. Óskarsson offers a variety of products and services to sports centers, swimming pools, schools, kindergartens, and the general public. The company specializes in sport-related products, activity-focused games, and a wide range of solutions for sports facilities.

Á. Óskarsson has been involved in numerous big projects related to building sports facilities and has made it their benchmark to offer good quality products and equipment since the company was founded.

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Á. Óskarsson selur fjölbreytt vöruúrval fyrir íþróttahús, sundlaugar, skóla og leikskóla og einnig ýmsar vörur til einkaafnota. Fyrirtækið selur vörur til íþróttaiðkunnar og leikja ásamt því að bjóða upp á ýmsar lausnir fyrir íþróttamannvirki.

Á. Óskarsson hefur komið að fjölda stórra verkefna við byggingu íþróttamannvirkja og hefur frá stofnun kappkostað að bjóða vandaðar og endingargóðar vörur.

Tenglar á samfélagsmiðla eru í efra horninu vinstra megin.



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    Check out Blush’s website: https://blush.is/

    Omnom Chocolate
    - award-winning chocolate maker

      Omnom Chocolate is an Icelandic craft chocolate company based in Reykjavík. We produce handcrafted chocolate from organic cacao beans sourced ethically and sustainably. We’ve developed direct relationships to create premium chocolate with fine flavor cacao beans.

      Our creative flavors are carefully crafted by meticulous chocolate makers. The cacao beans are roasted, winnowed, ground, and refined into melty-smooth chocolate.

      Omnom’s process is one of constant exploration, invention, and experimentation. If it doesn’t please us, if something isn’t absolutely delicious, there’s no reason to be doing it. So, we always start with our taste buds and follow our instincts. Our team searches for the finest ingredients in the world and new ways to improve chocolate. This obsession with knowing where our ingredients come from has led us around the corner to dairy farms in the Icelandic countryside and all the way to rainforest cacao farms of Nicaragua.

      In only a few short years, we’ve grown from our 50 sq. m. petrol station space and become an award-winning chocolate maker. Now, with our headquarters in 101 Reykjavík, our chocolate is sent out around Iceland and all over the world.

      At the end of the day, our goal is to make chocolate.




        Nasdaq (Nasdaq: NDAQ) is a global technology company serving the capital markets and other industries. Our diverse offering of data, analytics, software and services enables clients to optimize and execute their business vision with confidence.

        With over 4,300 employees in 39 offices around the world, at Nasdaq we all contribute to the success of the company and its culture, and each one of us has the ability to make a difference. When it comes to our core mission and values, we embrace the role of Diversity, Inclusion and Belonging (DIB) as a fundamental driver of our corporate growth, workplace culture and market development. We strive to create a culture that embraces the power of different perspectives—a culture where people’s unique backgrounds and different experiences helps us fuel innovation and support our clients around the world.

        Our unique position at the center of the capital markets allows us to see firsthand how these values have redefined corporate culture and success, deepening and accelerating our own commitment to champion inclusive growth and prosperity, as we strive to create more equitable opportunities to help people of all backgrounds reach their full potential. Most notably, we published our diversity statistics for the first time in 2020. These metrics serve as a quantitative assessment of where we are today and help determine what strategies we need to adopt to enhance diversity in the workplace. We recognize that we have much work to do, but we are steadfast in our commitment to creating a diverse and inclusive culture—one that reflects the communities in which we live, allows all employees to be their true, authentic selves and fosters individual growth and achievement.

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        Blue Lagoon
        - One of the 25 Wonders of the World

        Named by National Geographic as one of the 25 Wonders of the World, the Blue Lagoon is a shimmering expanse of warmth, relaxation, and rejuvenation. Its unique geothermal seawater
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        From its humble beginnings in the shadows of a geothermal power plant, Blue Lagoon has evolved into a world of wonder, now encompassing two hotels, three restaurants, three
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        Achieving harmony with the volcanic landscape, the lagoon and its surrounding architecture embody the unification of the man-made and the natural, and adhere to the highest principles of sustainability.

        The Blue Lagoon. A wonder of the world. A world of wonder.

        - leading financial institution

        Landsbankinn is a leading Icelandic financial institution. It offers a full range of financial services and is the market leader in the Icelandic financial service sector with the largest branch network.

        The present bank was established on 7 October 2008 but the history of its predecessor dates back to 1886. The bank is owned by the National Treasury of Iceland, which holds 98.2% of its share capital, and other shareholders who own 1.8%.

        Landsbankinn’s strategy is to provide comprehensive financial services that meet customer’s needs. It emphasizes providing exemplary service to customers, developing e-banking for their convenience, increasing the efficiency of support functions, modernizing its technology and ensuring effective utilization of its balance sheet.

        The bank’s vision is to be exemplary and its role is to be a trusted financial partner.

        Special emphasis is placed on promoting a performance-oriented culture in the bank. To follow up on the implementation of this strategy, the bank has defined key goals which are measured regularly to determine progress. These goals include, for example, customer satisfaction and loyalty, profitability, cost efficiency and the correlation between risk appetite and employee satisfaction.

        Landsbankinn wishes to lead the development of a sustainable society in Iceland by integrating economic, social and environmental concerns in its operations. The Bank aims to ensure that both its owners and society at large benefit from its activities.

        It intends to achieve this aim by building solid infrastructure and a strong team of 1.100 employees, by listening to its customers and by respecting and encouraging its employees to actively participate in their community. Landsbankinn was a founding member of Festa, a Centre for Corporate Social Responsibility, and is a member of the UN Global Compact.

        Landsbankinn has been a proud sponsor of the Reykjavik Pride since it was first celebrated in Iceland.

        - get inspired

        Dohop allows people to find the cheapest flights available with just one click. Founded in Reykjavik in 2004, it is the only Icelandic company of its kind and quickly became the go-to tool for finding cheap flights among the locals. Dohop finds the best deals among hundreds of different airlines and online travel agencies, to make sure that the user is getting the cheapest price. Dohop also offers hotel and car rental search engines, so users can make all of their travel bookings from a single website.

        Dohop‘s specialty is finding so-called “self-connect” flight options, which can save travelers money by booking a ticket through two or more different airlines. The ability to look for these self-connect option is what sets Dohop apart from its competition, as it can save people hundreds of dollars on certain routes.

        More recently, Dohop has developed a unique product called Dohop Go!, which allows users to check for the cheapest available flights from their home airport. This tool is perfect for those who are looking for travel inspiration but are not willing to overpay for their flight ticket. Dohop Go! is now available in the Dohop Flights App, both for Android and iOS, along with its traditional flight, hotel, and car search engines. “

        VSÓ Ráðgjöf


          VSÓ Ráðgjöf er alhliða ráðgjafar- og verkfræðifyrirtæki sem leggur áherslu á trausta og faglega þjónustu sem tryggir viðskiptavinum hagkvæmustu lausnir hverju sinni, skilar raunverulegum árangri og stuðlar að samkeppnisforskoti.  Á skrifstofum VSÓ í Reykjavík og í Noregi starfar yfir 80 manna samhentur hópur verkfræðinga og annarra tæknimenntaðra starfsmanna.

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          Ísey skyr
          - once tasted never forgotten

          Our Story
          Once upon a time, 1,100 years ago in fact, Nordic settlers began arriving in Iceland. They brought with them the skills and knowledge for producing skyr. As time passed, the know-how and recipe for this nutritious food slowly faded out elsewhere in the Nordic region. Luckily, the Icelandic skyr-making tradition continued.

          For centuries, Icelandic skyr formed a cornerstone of the national diet, helping to keep people strong in living conditions that were often harsh. On family farms countrywide, it was the women who nurtured this dairy and passing on both the recipe and the original Icelandic skyr cultures from mother to daughter.

          Ísey skyr builds on this remarkable legacy. It was some of those very same women, the recipients of their mothers’ expertise, who, around 90 years ago, taught Icelandic dairy scientists the art of skyr-making. The production process is more high-tech these days, and the quality standards more rigorous. However, the basic recipe and the use of original cultures to ferment the skimmed milk remain the same. Protein rich, fat-free, creamy and delicious – Ísey skyr is as relevant to consumers now as it was all those centuries ago.
          This is our secret and you are in on it

          You can read more about Ísey skyr on our website.

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