“A long, passionate eye-fuck from across the room can really drive us crazy.”
For lesbians, flirting is a subtle form of art. Apríl Smáradóttir gives valuable tips for girls who want to master the art of flirting with other girls and avoid awkward situations.
So you have come to the point where you are actually thinking about doing it.
For us lesbians, we absolutely love it when other girls make the move. It’s cute, it’s hot, it’s wanting. We love excitement, and for a girl to hit on a girl for the first time, it’s the most exciting thing in the world, and we love being a part of it.
I do realize hitting on the same-sex can be a bit scary for the first time. God knows I have been there. But there is a growing desire inside of you and that’s why you are reading this article in the first place.
I remember my first actual flirt with a girl. It was actually with my ex girlfriend. It was so awkward I thought I would die. I had no idea what to do. But it went a little like this:
I saw her at this party, she was lookin’ all beautiful and mysterious. I just had to say something to her. Suddenly I just forgot how to flirt but had to do something so I walked across the room where she was mixing herself a drink and said: “Hi. You are cute.”
Cute girl (the ex): “Uhm, thanks.”
And then she walked away and left me dying in shame. We didn’t have any more conversation that evening.
Now that I have gotten the hang of flirting, I’m willing to share some tips, if you are interested to learn and want us to notice you. Follow these simple steps and by the time you’re finished, you’ve played out 69% of the cards on the table. We will do the rest.
Things that will flatter us
1. Eye-fucking. The more of it, the better. A long, passionate eye-fuck from across the room can really drive us crazy. A little bit of “oh, I didn’t mean to stare at you” and “I’m just gonna take a sneak peek while taking a sip of my drink”. Glance at our way. Sexy as hell.
2. A good, old-fashioned wink. Unexpected. Then continue as if nothing happened and leave us to melt.
3. Accidental touching. “Woops, a little bump, I didn’t mean to…” Yeah right, we know you meant to. Do it again.
4. Dance around us and act like it’s not on purpose. It works on boys and on us too. It’s also cute to watch.
5. Flattery. Giggle at our jokes. Praise our converse. If your target is a butch, compliment her hair. She put a lot of work in it.
6. Look into our eyes while talking to us. Then hold the stare for a little longer. Gaydar exploding. BAM! You’re in! Don’t say bam.
Things that wont do the trick
1. Saying: “I’m not gay. But if I were, I would definitely date you.” Hoping we take the hint and make the move.
2. Saying that you’ve “always been fascinated with lesbians“. What does that even mean?
3. Talking about your ex boyfriends.
4. Thinking that kissing your heterosexual friends constantly when we are looking and flirting with everyone around you will actually turn us on. It won’t.
5. “Trying us out”, just because you’re drunk and want to kiss a girl for the “YOLO” of it. We’ll feel used. And hurt. And then more used.