New dad proceeds with gender transition

One of this year’s most travelled, and heart-warming, articles of GayIceland was the story of Henrý Steinn, a new dad in the North of Iceland, who happened to be the first Icelandic man to give birth during a gender transition process. The story was picked up by media all over the world, including UK’s Daily Mail, Independent and Metro as well as Turkey’s Cumhuriyet, the Indonesian Bangka Pos, Portugal’s 24Horas, Spain’s La Gaceta and Sweden’s Nyhether24.

Since the article was published in early May, the baby girl has been given the name Védís Bára Þórisdóttir – Bára after one of her grannies – and is thriving well, hates avocado intensely and gets around on her backside. Her dads are looking forward to celebrating her first Christmas and Henrý’s transition process is back on track.

Earlier this year Henrý Steinn became be the first Icelandic man to give birth during a gender transition process. Now he’s about to celebrate Christmas with his baby Védís Bára for the first time.
Earlier this year Henrý Steinn became be the first Icelandic man to give birth to a baby during a gender transition process. Now he’s about to celebrate Christmas with his beautiful little baby Védís Bára for the very first time.

So, how’s the little family doing now? “Really good. Although me and Doddi (Þórir Leó Pétursson, the baby’s other dad) have separated since but that was all on good terms and we share parenting. We now both live in Akureyri, I moved in with my mother and stepdad and Doddi’s recently found an apartment here so he’s close by.”

Are you busy preparing Christmas? “I’ve mostly been busy with exams – I took one term at the Akureyri Comprehensive College – so I’ve just been chilling for the past few days. I’ve decided not to continue with my studies next term, it’s a bit tricky with a baby, especially if we won’t get a child minder soon. My mum and stepdad and a couple of other family members looked after her while I attended classes and only one time I had to take her along. That was fine, she’s very easy, but I wouldn’t want to do that again.”

You were planning a big change in your life before falling pregnant, do you feel that becoming a parent is just as big a change or is it what you expected it to be? “Yes and no, it’s a slightly bigger deal than I thought, you can’t be prepared for everything. I’d say both becoming a parent and transitioning is equally big a change to anyone’s life.”

“I’d say both becoming a parent and transitioning is equally big a change to anyone’s life.”

Which dad does Védís take more after? “I think she’s very mixed. At first I didn’t see any of me in her but with time, when she stopped being wrinkled, she began looking more like me. Now, it just varies what others see in her, some say she looks like Doddi, some say she looks like me. I think she looks more like him whereas she takes more after me in character.”

Védís Bára with Santa.
Védís Bára with Santa.

And what sort of a character is she? “She’s a very chilled out baby, everybody comments on how relaxed she is, you hardly ever hear her complain. She’s very calm but still full of energy, not difficult at all to deal with. She “crawls” by shifting around on her backside, eats well – she’s tasted most things and likes it all except avocado, she finds it disgusting! I think it has something to do with the texture, she finds mango a bit weird as well.”

You’ve been trying to get a child minder for Védís, how’s that going? “I left it a bit too long because I was hesitant to call each and every one but I didn’t notice any weird reactions when I spoke to them; some of them had heard of me and our circumstances so it wasn’t a big deal. We’ve now found a few child minders that we like and are just waiting who’ll be the first to have available space for Védís.”

The interview in GayIceland went viral and your name and picture appeared on websites all over the world, what did you think of the response? “It was a little overwhelming; I wasn’t expecting that at all. It was fun to begin with, to see how far the story travelled but eventually I was just waiting for it to stop.

I received quite a few messages and that was fine, they were all positive and people just saying my story was interesting and wishing us well. But to get random friend requests on Facebook from strangers on the other side of the world, that was weird and I didn’t accept any of those. I did reply to the messages, just to say thank you.

“Some say she looks like Doddi, some say she looks like me. I think she looks more like him whereas she takes more after me in character,” says Henrý Steinn when asked which dad Védís Bára takes more after.
“Some say she looks like Doddi, some say she looks like me. I think she looks more like him whereas she takes more after me in character,” says Henrý Steinn when asked which dad Védís Bára takes more after.

The only negative response I noticed was in some of the comments sections and I just tried to ignore them; it’s perhaps a mistake reading them but I’m used to all sorts of reactions and know that ignorance is the root cause of all prejudice, so it doesn’t really bother me.”

Last week, you began your hormone treatment, after postponing it for just over a year because of the surprise pregnancy, how do you feel about it? “I’m glad to be back on track but the first time felt a little strange, mostly because I didn’t know it would take such a long time to inject the medicine; it’s a bit thick so you have to take your time emptying the syringe into the muscle. My blood pressure is fine and everything but now, after only a few days, I feel as if I’m about to get a sore throat but I’m told that’s a common symptom when the hormone starts affecting your voice. People don’t believe it happens this quickly but apparently your voice starts getting deeper pretty soon and your appetite increases so I’m prepared for that over Christmas!”

“Me and Védís will spend Christmas Eve here at my mum’s; Christmas Day we’ll spend at my dad’s and then go over to Doddi’s family … so she’ll probably be opening presents for three days in a row!”

What’s the family’s plan for Christmas? “Me and Védís will spend Christmas Eve here at my mum’s; Christmas Day we’ll spend at my dad’s and then go over to Doddi’s family in Árskógsströnd, where we used to live, after that. I want them to enjoy opening presents with Védís so she’ll probably be opening presents for three days in a row!”

Henrý Steinn is looking forward to celebrate Christmas with little Védís Bára.
Henrý Steinn is looking forward to celebrate Christmas with little Védís Bára.

And the outlook for 2017? “Is bright; two weeks in, my 20th birthday is up and it happens to fall on a Saturday so I think I’ll definitely celebrate. I’ve got a new boyfriend now so we’ll probably do something together. We’re taking things a bit slow; it’s different when you’ve got a baby, you really take your time getting to know each other but he and Védís have met and get along fine. So 2017 is full of prospect; my main goal regarding the gender transition is to have a top surgery sometime next year.”

Have you thought of having more babies? “Well, the first few months it was an absolute “No, no!” and I’m told that’s very normal for all new parents. But as time has gone by, the idea has become slightly appealing again. I’m not going to rule anything out at least and am in no hurry to have a hysterectomy.”

So would you be willing to carry and give birth to another baby? “I’m not quite sure, for now I think it’s a possibility but only time will tell,” says the happy dad who’s looking forward to celebrate Christmas with beautiful little Védís Bára.

The Hamburger Factory
- gourmet burgers

Ok. You’re in Iceland. Most likely for the first time.

You will probably bathe in the Blue Lagoon and take a road trip to Gullfoss and
Geysir. That’s all well and good. But neither Geysir’s nor waterfalls are
something you eat. That’s why we have 15 brilliant and creative hamburgers at
The Hamburger Factory. And they are all perfectly square. Don’t miss out on
Iceland’s most beloved hamburgers.

The Hamburger Factory is Iceland’s most innovative gourmet burger chain.
Packed with burger-craving customers since it’s opening in 2010, among the
regulars is Iceland’s best known fisherman, Eric Clapton. In our restaurants we
welcome tourists with our newspaper like menu and smiley service. They are
packed with fun items and memorable connections to Icelandic pop culture.

Locations:

Omnom Chocolate
- award-winning chocolate maker

    Omnom Chocolate is an Icelandic craft chocolate company based in Reykjavík. We produce handcrafted chocolate from organic cacao beans sourced ethically and sustainably. We’ve developed direct relationships to create premium chocolate with fine flavor cacao beans.

    Our creative flavors are carefully crafted by meticulous chocolate makers. The cacao beans are roasted, winnowed, ground, and refined into melty-smooth chocolate.

    Omnom’s process is one of constant exploration, invention, and experimentation. If it doesn’t please us, if something isn’t absolutely delicious, there’s no reason to be doing it. So, we always start with our taste buds and follow our instincts. Our team searches for the finest ingredients in the world and new ways to improve chocolate. This obsession with knowing where our ingredients come from has led us around the corner to dairy farms in the Icelandic countryside and all the way to rainforest cacao farms of Nicaragua.

    In only a few short years, we’ve grown from our 50 sq. m. petrol station space and become an award-winning chocolate maker. Now, with our headquarters in 101 Reykjavík, our chocolate is sent out around Iceland and all over the world.

    At the end of the day, our goal is to make chocolate.

     

    Alfred’s Apartments
    - gay owned an operated

      Alfred’s Apartments and Alfred’s Studios is a gay operated and owned accommodation in the heart of Reykjavik.

      Alfred’s Apartments offers spacious apartments at a good price located just around the corner from Laugavegur shopping street. You can choose the apartment starting from a Small Studio for 2 persons to a large One-bedroom Apartment with balcony for 5 persons.

      Their staff will ensure your comfort during the stay and provide the most updated information about the city, gay and night life in Reykjavik.

      Each apartment has a private bathroom with a shower, fully equipped kitchen and free Wi-Fi. Guests can buy groceries at the local grocery store 50 meters from the apartments. Because of their very central location, numerous shops, restaurants and cafés are available in the surrounding area. The Church of Hallgrimur is located 350 m from the apartments, a tourist agency is just 50 m away and the nearest gay bar is less than 5 minutes walking distance.

      Laekur hostel
      In the hostel we have dorms for 4-8 persons with shared kitchen and bathroom facilities. The rooms are furnished with free internet, lockers, and a USB charger by each bed. The beds have linen provided and you can rent a towel in the cafe on the ground floor for 5 EUR.

      All the dorms are mixed with both genders. You can also book a whole room with 4-8 bunker beds.

      Blue Lagoon
      - a world of wonder

      Named by National Geographic as one of the 25 Wonders of the World, the Blue Lagoon is a shimmering expanse of warmth, relaxation, and rejuvenation. Its unique geothermal seawater comes from 2000 meters within the earth where sea and fresh water converge in a tectonic frontier of porous lava and searing heat. Propelled by extreme pressure, the water ascends to the earth’s surface, emerging enriched with silica, algae, and minerals: the elements that endow Blue Lagoon geothermal seawater with its radiant, healing properties.

      From its humble beginnings in the shadows of a geothermal power plant, Blue Lagoon has evolved into a world of wonder, now encompassing a hotel, a restaurant, a luxury lounge, a renowned line of skin care, a research center, in-water massage, and a wealth of spa and refreshment facilities.

      Achieving harmony with the volcanic landscape of Iceland’s Reykjanes lava plain, the lagoon and its surrounding architecture embody the unification of the man-made and the natural, and adhere to the highest principles of sustainability.

      Blue Lagoon. A wonder of the world. A world of wonder.

      Whales of Iceland
      - larger than life

      Whales of Iceland is the largest whale exhibition in Europe (and perhaps even the world), where guests can learn about the giants of the sea in a calm and modern environment. The permanent exhibition features whales like guests have never seen them before. It is truly a giant experience.

      Landsbankinn
      - leading financial institution

      Landsbankinn is a leading Icelandic financial institution. It offers a full range of financial services and is the market leader in the Icelandic financial service sector with the largest branch network.

      The present bank was established on 7 October 2008 but the history of its predecessor dates back to 1886. The bank is owned by the National Treasury of Iceland, which holds 98.2% of its share capital, and other shareholders who own 1.8%.

      Landsbankinn’s strategy is to provide comprehensive financial services that meet customer’s needs. It emphasizes providing exemplary service to customers, developing e-banking for their convenience, increasing the efficiency of support functions, modernizing its technology and ensuring effective utilization of its balance sheet.

      The bank’s vision is to be exemplary and its role is to be a trusted financial partner.

      Special emphasis is placed on promoting a performance-oriented culture in the bank. To follow up on the implementation of this strategy, the bank has defined key goals which are measured regularly to determine progress. These goals include, for example, customer satisfaction and loyalty, profitability, cost efficiency and the correlation between risk appetite and employee satisfaction.

      Landsbankinn wishes to lead the development of a sustainable society in Iceland by integrating economic, social and environmental concerns in its operations. The Bank aims to ensure that both its owners and society at large benefit from its activities.

      It intends to achieve this aim by building solid infrastructure and a strong team of 1.100 employees, by listening to its customers and by respecting and encouraging its employees to actively participate in their community. Landsbankinn was a founding member of Festa, a Centre for Corporate Social Responsibility, and is a member of the UN Global Compact.

      Landsbankinn has been a proud sponsor of the Reykjavik Pride since it was first celebrated in Iceland.

      Dohop
      - get inspired

      Dohop allows people to find the cheapest flights available with just one click. Founded in Reykjavik in 2004, it is the only Icelandic company of its kind and quickly became the go-to tool for finding cheap flights among the locals. Dohop finds the best deals among hundreds of different airlines and online travel agencies, to make sure that the user is getting the cheapest price. Dohop also offers hotel and car rental search engines, so users can make all of their travel bookings from a single website.

      Dohop‘s specialty is finding so-called “self-connect” flight options, which can save travelers money by booking a ticket through two or more different airlines. The ability to look for these self-connect option is what sets Dohop apart from its competition, as it can save people hundreds of dollars on certain routes.

      More recently, Dohop has developed a unique product called Dohop Go!, which allows users to check for the cheapest available flights from their home airport. This tool is perfect for those who are looking for travel inspiration but are not willing to overpay for their flight ticket. Dohop Go! is now available in the Dohop Flights App, both for Android and iOS, along with its traditional flight, hotel, and car search engines. “

      Macland
      - for all your Apple needs

      From starting out as a proper startup with only a good idea and the need to change things, to becoming an established company with 6 employees. Starting from scratch and expanding organically has allowed us to love our expansion and take our customers on the ride with us.

      Macland is located at Laugavegur 23 (101, Downtown Reykjavik)
      For all your Apple needs. We are here.

      Aurora Reykjavik
      - northern lights center

        Aurora Reykjavik is a Northern Lights Center situated in downtown Reykjavík at the Old Harbor next to Icelandair Hotel Marina and Vikin Maritime Museum.

        Aurora Reykjavík is Iceland’s first educational and recreational Northern Lights Center where multimedia is used to explain when, why and how the Northern Lights work, with the highlights being large HD projection of the Aurora’s. We also share myths and legends about what our ancestor thought about those mystical lights.

        The Northern Lights Center is for all ages. Children are our favorite guests and we created the exhibition in a way that children can have a look freely and parents don’t have to worry about things being broken.

        Aurora Reykjavik offers a great selection of souvenirs that are designed and made by Icelanders along with nice little coffee corner, where you can enjoy free coffee and tea while browsing through the souvenirs or just planning your next step.

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        Ísey skyr
        - once tasted never forgotten

        Our Story
        Once upon a time, 1,100 years ago in fact, Nordic settlers began arriving in Iceland. They brought with them the skills and knowledge for producing skyr. As time passed, the know-how and recipe for this nutritious food slowly faded out elsewhere in the Nordic region. Luckily, the Icelandic skyr-making tradition continued.

        For centuries, Icelandic skyr formed a cornerstone of the national diet, helping to keep people strong in living conditions that were often harsh. On family farms countrywide, it was the women who nurtured this dairy and passing on both the recipe and the original Icelandic skyr cultures from mother to daughter.

        Ísey skyr builds on this remarkable legacy. It was some of those very same women, the recipients of their mothers’ expertise, who, around 90 years ago, taught Icelandic dairy scientists the art of skyr-making. The production process is more high-tech these days, and the quality standards more rigorous. However, the basic recipe and the use of original cultures to ferment the skimmed milk remain the same. Protein rich, fat-free, creamy and delicious – Ísey skyr is as relevant to consumers now as it was all those centuries ago.
        This is our secret and you are in on it

        You can read more about Ísey skyr on our website.

        Núðluskálin
        - noodle bar

        Núðluskálin is a small gay owned and operated fusion noodle bar.

        All of our courses are individually made from fresh ingredients and therefore highly customisable.
        We offer fully Vegan versions of all courses.
        Though originally a take-away we now seat over 30 people.

        Núðluskálin is located right in the heart of Reykjavík on Skólavörðustígur 8 (street leading up to the big Church) near the junction with Laugavegur (main street).

        Seatours
        - adventure cruise

        Ferry Baldur – the gate to the West fjords
        and VikingSushi Adventure – Bird & Nature watching Tour for everyone all year around

        The “VikingSushi Adventure” is the right boat tour for travelers who are adventurous and want to experience something new – close up to the nature seafood simply doesn’t come fresher than this! The archipelago area of the Breidafjordur Bay always surprises her visitors during winter or summer with spectacular sights. Where else you get to try delicious fresh scallops and sea urchin roe straight from the ocean served with soy sauce, wasabi and ginger.

        600x400-seatours-tasting

        This old volcanic area, characterized by the typical basalt formations of the islands, is the home of countless birds. Here you will also find the strongest currents in Iceland. The VikingSushi Tour takes roughly two hours and our captain is also the tour guide.

        600x400-seatours

        The VikingSushi Tour is a true adventure through incredible nature which should not be missed by any traveler to West Iceland.

        Birds, possible to spot:
        -puffins (from the middle of April until the middle of August)
        -eider ducks
        -shags
        -kittiwakes
        -fulmars
        -white-tailed eagle

        The car ferry Baldur is the bridge to the West fjords via the island Flatey
        Ferry Baldur crosses Breidafjordur Bay daily from Stykkisholmur on the Snæfellsnes peninsula to Brjanslaekur in the north. A ferry ride considerably shortens the route between the south and mid-west of the country and the West Fjords region. It also gives you the opportunity to experience a floating restaurant.

        Take a stopover at the charming island Flatey when you are crossing the bay or go to a day tour to Flatey and back to Stykkishólmur. At Flatey are no cars allowed and between the houses of the 18th century you get the feeling of a journey back in time.

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